Why you’re obsessed with cock Sucking
So often I get clients wanting to tell me their deepest secrets (yes confessional phone sex is a thing). And a lot of the time those secrets are fantasies that they themselves are confused by. I would even go so far as to say some battle with their thoughts, trying to push them down and repress them. One of the most popular – cock sucking.
Fantasies Are Natural
I just want to put your mind to rest and assure you that fantasies are completely natural and normal, and usually our fantasies are just that – fantasies. Just because you get incredibly aroused by something doesn’t mean you need to take it to the next level… Unless you want to of course!
Naughtiness Is Intoxicating
Ever wonder why these thoughts seem to turn you on more than anything else? We always want what we can’t have, or at least what we think we shouldn’t have, and this is no exception to the rule. One little thought creeps in and then *BAM* it becomes a guilty pleasure. Sometimes being a bit devious is a massive turn on. Exploring sexuality and the plethora of diverse pleasures offered.
Porn Is A Trigger
You may not realise it but indulging in porn too often can lead to a more diluted release of Dopamine – the pleasure chemical! The more you watch, the less pleasure you get from the same old stuff. This is the gateway for finding something different. And sometimes you stumble upon an idea that may have turned you off a few weeks back – now it’s your new go to spank bank material!
You fixate every time you touch yourself
This is a way of training yourself to become aroused as soon as you think of that fantasy. You have a mind blowing orgasm thinking about the nitty-gritty details and then go back for more. Sometimes people struggle having an orgasm when they try to think of something else, especially when they get into this routine!
You’ve had a hot experience
This may apply to some, but certainly not all. If you’ve experimented in real life and you had a thoroughly enjoyable experience you are more likely to relive it in your head, especially when you get some alone time. You may even be planning your next one…
Your girlfriend wouldn’t approve
Sometimes it’s nice to explore fantasies with a partner or significant other, but not all fantasies are her thing. I’m aware that some guys out that have exceptionally kinky partners and that is fantastic. But if you are one of those guys that would never divulge your deepest fantasies, then there is a good chance it will feel naughtier and more desirable to you. When we’ve been in a relationship for a very long time, fantasies can almost serve as a mental defiance. We are claiming pieces of ourselves back, so that we are not completely entwined with another person, who may annoy us most days.
You like the idea of being cuckolded
Again, this won’t apply to everyone but for some, cuckolding is a massive turn on and it certainly opens up a lot more possibilities when it comes to exploring sexuality. You may start out thinking about how hot it would be to watch your wife or girlfriend with another man. Then thoughts slowly wander to where you are eating her out afterwards, cleaning up that nice cream pie! Naturally, curiosity takes hold and you start to wonder how far you would actually take it. Maybe his cock is huge and absolutely gorgeous looking (yes cocks can be attractive). He may even expect you to submit to him… If you’ve been thinking about cock sucking chances are this scenario is sure to float your boat!
You’re Naturally Submissive
There is something incredibly sexy about alpha male confidence (and no, I don’t mean bullshit bravado or egotistical behaviour). Most guys who enjoy the fantasy or the act of cock sucking are fascinated by a dominating presence – especially that Alpha male with the ‘it ain’t gonna suck itself’ attitude. You can’t help but drop to your knees when a real man takes control.
I hope you enjoyed reading this blog and maybe it even helped you to identify the origin of your cock sucking fantasies… I would love to hear your thoughts comments and suggestions. Tell me about your personal experiences if you would like to share – I love hearing from you all.
Until next time pets
XOXO
Mistress Ruby you are very skilled.Your insights are accurate.Many times fantasy is better than reality.Certainly,it makes sense often to keep it a fantasy rather than acting upon it.Fantasies do change.Some come and go.Fantasies also are just part of who we are.Human connection besides fantasy is also vital.So it is nice when one can chat and enjoy it with the avenue LDW offers.It is so great when one can develop that real strong human bond and connection.Ruby alot can be learned about ourselves from you in the arena of fantasy and other life situations.Thank you.
Thank you for your feedback 🙂 <3 xx
This is definitely a newer kink I’ve figured out, but I’ve been thinking about it more and more. There’s something so hot about a true Alpha man making my Mistress and Owner his bitch and me, the bitch’s bitch, meekly watching and aching in a cage wishing I could experience that pleasure. Being put at the bottom of the food chain and forced to recognize and worship a superior cock I will never really gets me going. I just hope my Owner enjoys both his cock and my humiliation.
No man would ever make me his ‘bitch’… but if he is Alpha then I may find it pleasurable to submit, knowing full well the power is all in my hands none the less. Regardless of status, beta or alpha… it matters not. Beta’s are always on the bottom, but alpha’s are granted more privileges. Privileges that are still mine to grant. 😉
Miss Ruby,
I like this post! For me, cocksucking is a reality, as I am gay. But, like many, it started out as curiosity and fantasy (like a lot of gay men, I suppose)and led to experimentation.
Once I tried it, my days with women were numbered 😀.
I’m a total bottom, which makes me a beta. But, like you, I’m nobody’s bitch. I’m a confident gay man who knows what he likes.
I’m a proud cocksucker and love everything about cock-the taste, the feel, the scent, the strong men they are connected to, and of course, the delicious loads of cum they squirt into my mouth (and other places😉)
Cheers to all the cocksuckers!
😀 Thank you for your comment! I’m glad to hear you are proud to be a cocksucker! CHEERS!
I’m turning into a female
Yeah you are 😛
Hi Miss Ruby, thank you so much for this post! Absolutely love your accent by the way!! I love how you dive into where these desires we have come from, how they begin, how they expand. 20 years ago, I would have never in my wildest thoughts think that one day in the future, I would be wearing panties, locked and caged, and dreaming of being on my knees in front of a throbbing cock with my wife encouraging me on. Unfortunately most of that dream is still to be fulfilled but hope springs eternal.
If there is one thing I can put my finger on that simply slams the door on any kind of self exploration is the word Guilt. I feel guilty for feeling this way or that. I was raised to be a “good” boy, to be a “good” man to love and cherish my wife and raise amazing children. Why can’t i be all of those things? now in the later half of my life, i’ve cast aside any expectations of who or what I should be. i’m a good and decent person who just so happens to have the desire to be on my knees in front of an Alpha male and do as I am told. It could only be better to have a strong wonderful amazing woman by my side…encouraging me to pleasure that Alpha cock and give it my all.
I’m trying to break through these barriers myself, it’s not easy after years and years of being told what a man is “supposed” to be like and how to act. I appreciate your posts and audios Miss Ruby.
Thank you for the compliments, they are very much appreciated 🙂
I’m glad that my posts can be helpful to anyone who is wanting to explore ones own desires and feelings. We are all bombarded with visions of how we should be or how we should act, but the only vision you should be concerned with is the one you want to pursue. Don’t let anyone pressure you into being someone you are not. On the flip side, some desires are much better in our minds than in reality. I would encourage you to reflect on your own desires and maybe research the experiences of others to get an idea of what it might be like to plunge into the deep end. Fantasies in our minds can be controlled easily, but experiences with others are far more unpredictable (and not always in the ways we want them to be). Stay safe and keep being you! Ruby xoxo